although i never had the chance to attend a family wedding in india, i attended my dad’s brother’s daughter’s wedding in canada and that made me look at things from a different perspective. i met everyone after a very long time and they all ignored me and no one would talk to me. all of my cousins in india (mom’s side) are all older than me. they’re all married and have kids of their own, i had a close cousin from india visit me in june for five days. when he came, the very first thing he asked me was what i’m doing that i am busy all the time. when i told him everything, he looked at me and was able to tell i was making excuses. it made me realize that i was hurting his feelings. when i asked him for help on how to check the air pressure in my tires, he helped me. as a way of making it up to him, i sent him a picture from his visit and he replied "we miss the fun and action we had there." i wrote to him for india’s independence day and he replied me within two minutes. then i called him for raksha bandhan. can i make it up to him by writing to him for diwali then write to him once a month after that? send me ur honest opinions

when my aunt and uncle were visiting us from india, my aunt told my mom to call her brother for raksha bandhan. she told her brother that she will not remember him because he didnt come visit her in america. is that rude? last year, my cousin was in the usa but he didnt come visit me. i went there and i only got to spend three days with him. after he went back to india, i only wrote to him when he asked me to. i sort of missed him alot. when i called him for raksha bandhan last year, my minutes on my phone card ran out and he called me back within two seconds. this year, he came to america again with his wife and 2 sons and they came to visit me for five days. after they left, i realized that they wanted to spend five days with me so i remember them. they flew from india to new yorl, then from new york to california, then from california back to india. they took a 7 am flight from new york and arrived in california around 10 am pst. they went back to india on june 23rd. they flew directly from california and took the last flight in the evening. his kids started their school on july 1st. after they left, i sent him a picture from his vacation and got a reply "we miss the fun and action we had there." i wrote to him for india’s independence day and i got a reply in two minutes "great to hear from you." when i called for raksha bandhan, my cousin answered the phone. when i told him who was calling, he said "HI". I plan to write for Diwali. This morning my mom told me to call her sister because she called us yesterday. my mom doesnt let me call her brother. i got complaints from my cousin that i stopped writing and calling. if i start writing, what are the chances of me getting a complaint i stopped calling? i realize my cousin and his family came from the other side of the world to visit me. now, i’m kind of missing them and remembering them. both my cousin and his wife involved me in everything and made sure i wasnt left out. can i get some honest opinions? please be truthful
my cousin deserves to be remembered for travelling a long distance, going through a lot of trouble to come visit me, taking a lot of time off from his job, and flying back to india from California.

when i attended my dad’s brother’s daughter’s wedding in november 2006 in toronto, canada, i had a terrible time. none of my cousins talked to me or involved me in anything. they just ignored me. that taught me how to treat my cousins in india very negatively. this past summer, i had family from india come visit me in america and i’m starting to remember them. my cousin came to visit me for five days with his wife and 2 sons. when they were visiting, we went to disneyland. for group pictures, my cousin called me over to him. the next day, we were home and his kids were doing their homework and his wife was helping them. i was in my room doing some stuff on the computer. a few minutes later, my cousin came into my room and we chatted for a while. moments later, one of his sons was misbehaving. when i asked him if he should go see what the problem was, he said "he’ll get in trouble." is that a sign that spending time chatting with me was more important than checking on his child? the next day, my mom sent me out for shopping and my mom told my cousin to come with me. later that evening, we were on our way home and my cousin asked if i wanted to go for a walk. when we went to the beach, my cousin called me over and let me lean on him. after they left, i realized i’m better off writing to my cousin who came to visit me in america from india, and just let the others go to "". i wrote to my cousin for diwali and he replied "good to hear from you and thanks for remembering us for this auspicious occassion. i guess this cousin really cares about me. i felt bad because he was sleeping half of the time. when i asked his wife, she told me during the time when he works, he doesnt get enough sleep. he is just catching up on his sleep. is there a way of knowing if someone really cares about you? he flew from india to new york then from new york to california. i guess it was really important to him that he spent time with me. he took a 7 am flight from new york and landed in california around 10 am pst. then for going back to india, he took the very last flight in the evening.

Ok so i have these neighbours….there are 2 daughters..the elder one is actually 7 years old but her brain has some problem so she is mentally retarded and the brain is of a 4 year old…the other one is just 1 years old..she is very nice…so no talk about her!
the mentally retarded one…she likes to hang with me at my house..even tho my house is full of dump our furnishing is really pretty…and her house is really simple……so she comes to my house and she peeps into my cupboards,wardrobes,drawers,my shelves and EVERYTHING!!
I just hate it! and she is mentally retarded so i cant explain her what to do and what not to…..and like yesterday..she came over with her little sister…..her little sister is very nice,she is extremely intelligent at this age…she can even switch on the TV and the air conditioner and save numbers to the mobile phone!she loves me a lot and is always with me only when she is at my house….
and my mom…actually i am 11 and my brother is 20 so we kinda do not keep any stuff for babies…and i had this gift from a very close friend…3 babies of plastic as a showpeice..i had placed it and my mom took it out and gave it to the baby to play (i really did not mind 4 that)…..after some time…the mentally retarted kid..she actually asked me "can i have these babies!" and i was like….ummm….actually i really love those babies and i dont like to give my stuff away just like that…and i said i cant give it to you right now…but i may tomorrow….
and then she saw my small box that has stuff…and its called a SCHOOLKIT..and there was this scale in it that had some shapes…and she really liked it….first she tried to track down every possible thing and use it…
after sometime
she asked me "can u give me your box"
and i said nothing..i told her "hey there is diwali coming up right (its a hindu festival) so i will buy u some really nice gift okay"
and she said
"u will get me the box?" and i was BLANK!
and then she started to open my cupboard in which i have my CD collection and some Art and craft stuff….and she saw this box in which i had really pretty gems for making cards…i bought them yrs ago..i just use them when i gotta make real special cards…
she saw the box , saw my CD collection….
and then
she saw this set of sketch pens that my parents bought like 5 years ago from united states that i really love….and she was like
"give me some sketch pens..and whenever i need some gems i will come to you ok"
ughhh it is sooo pissing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
she opens my drawers,my wardrobe and even peeps into my personal stuff and my toys
and she always makes me feel very guilty when i dont let her touch my real special stuff…….and then that pisses me!

her grandmother is also very jealous of me and my family b;coz everytime she goes home…she tells her to buy her stuff and then she gotta shout…….
i just cant TAKE it anymore!

she wants to play with my teddy bears and my dog (toy)…and i jst hate that
i know i am behaving like a kid but i AM one!and all these things are REALLY VERY PRECIOUS TO ME!!and i dont even let my parents touch them

PS – bcoz her grandmother is jealous of us…whenever i go to their house she shows me her new clothes and stuff for absoloutely NO REASON!

please help!
i really like the small kid but i hate the mentally retarted one!
i dont want to give away my stuff at any cost
PLEASE HELP!!!!

in 2005, my cousin joined a new company. after i stopped writing him for a year and stopped calling him for nine months, he called me and started complaining. he told me i should write and call once in a while to catch up. when i sent him my email address, he replied "this is my office email and we can catch up once in a while." a few months later, i wrote to him when i tried calling him. last year, he came to america, but he didnt come visit me. i went there. he told me he is not allowed access to photos. i only wrote to him when he asked me to. this year, i wrote to him for holi. he came to visit me with his wife and 2 sons for a week. he told me i can write to him once twice a month letting him know what i’m doing. i wrote to him for india’s in dependence day, and he replied in two minutes and said "great to hear from you." then i called him for raksha bandhan. when i told him who was calling, then he said "Hi." when i wished him a happy raksha bandhan, he said "thanks a lot, you too." i wrote to him on his office email for diwali and he replied "Hi, good to hear from you and thanks for remembering us on this auspicious occasion. sending ,greetings, best wishes and hope you too have lots of sweets and fun…..regards to buiji. cheeers

how do i know if my cousin means it and wants me to write to him, or is he just saying it to be nice?

during his visit, he gave up a day to check on his kids while they were during their homework so he could spend some time with me. my mom sent me out for some shopping, and my cousin came with me. can someone give me their honest feedback on this?

back in 2007, i did not inform my cousin i was or wasnt coming to india with my sister..the day my sister met my cousin in india, he called me and said," we thought we’d see you too." i told him i got busy and his reply was, "omg! everyone is busy."

a few weeks ago, i wrote to my cousin for diwali saying, "greetings and warm wishes and my cousin replied, "greetings and best wishes and he asked me if i was coming to india for one of my cousin’s weddings..i never replied him i am not coming..is it possible that he will assume i am coming.if i dont inform him i am not coming, will he call me and say, "we thought we’d see you at the wedding."

the reason why i cant go is because thingd are rough in the usa and my mom and i already went to europe..my cousin will get mad because he had to go through a lot of trouble to take time off to visit me in america with his wife and children when his company citifinancial was going through a rough time..

can someone tell me their opinion..will my cousin call me if i dont inform him i am not coming for the wedding

when i wrote to my cousin in india for diwali, i wroe greetings and warm wishes to all of you for a very happy diwali and new year and my cousin replied, "greetings and best wishes to you and everyone..
what does my cousin mean..is he happy i remembered him on the occassion..was he just being nice

my mom’s older brother arranged a girl for my mom’s younger brother’s son to get married on december 9th.. the family didnt call me..but when my mom’s older brother came to visit me, he informed me that his younger brother’s son is getting married..my cousin asked me if i was going to the wedding and said that it would be a good opportunity to meet a lot of relatives..but i never replied if i was going or not..if my mom’s sister-in-law never called us, does that mean i am not invited or does it mean that since my mom’s older brother was in charge of arranging the wedding, my mom’s older brother is in charge of inviting people to the wedding..i saw my cousin in 2007 and 2008..now that there is a wedding, he wants to see me again 2009..how do i know if he is serious or just being nice..i know he will be like i need a break from you..

the us recession is driving me out of this world..i am going to heald college..as of now, th public school system is bad and now they’re thinking of cutting courses and increasing costs of private schools..my mom works for a small company with only 16 employees but 12 were laid off and now only 4..as things are gettng worse, my mom will be out of job..can someone help me..i need some honest opinions..what does everyone think..i’m worried to death..