my cousin from india remembered us last year for the occassion of diwali..i dont think i will call them this year since i called india yesterday..should i write to my cousin.

my cousin from india came all the way to visit me for five days. the very first thing he asked me was what i’m doing that i am busy all the time. when i told him everything, he looked at me and was able to tell i was making excuses. i guess in a way it made me realize i was hurting his feelings. he was expecting to see me in india with my sister last year but i never came. when he called me, i told him i got busy and his reply was "omg! eveyone is busy." a week after they left, i sent him a picture from his visit and he replied "we miss the fun and action we had there." then i wrote to him for india’s independence day and he replied within two minutes then i called him for raksha bandhan. he told me i can write to him once twice a month. when i met him during his visit to new york last year, he told me the more continous time i spend with family, the more i’m going to remember them. now i’m starting to remember them. as an honest opinion, since i remembered him, do u think he still mad at me for making excuses about being busy? i wrote to him on his personal email instead of his office email in rgds to the new delhi bombs and didnt hear back from them. is there a way i can gain respect from him? i feel horrible. despite that, when my sister went to india, he bought me a jewelry box, bangles, a blanket, and a shawl. in new york, he bought me an indian style purse along with artificial jewelry. i guess he just wanted me to remember him. i dont know what i can do to show my cousin i’m remembering him. would an email once a month help? i dont want him to think he’s getting a lot of email from me. he told me his comapny doesnt mind emails because he told me sending him emails is like writing him a letter. please send me honest feedback. to tell you the truth, all of my cousins in india are married and have kids of their own and i never had the chance to attend any of their weddings. when i started college, my dad’s brother’s daughter was getting married and my dad told me i had to go to the wedding. i had a horrible time. everyone ignored me, nor did anyone talk to me and they left me out in all of the cousin get-togethers. i guess that showed me how to be rude to others. please send me ur honest opinion. chanvces are i might write to him for diwali this year then write to him once a month or so on his office email. as it made me realize that he came all the way from india and he had to take time off and had to go through a lot of trouble to come visit me, i guess in a way he deserves a lot more respect.
i’ve gotten complaints from him in the past that i stopped writing and calling.

what is the real definition of close cousins..i have this one cousin who i always see when i’m in india..during my past trips to india, he was always picking us up from the airport..after i came back from india, he called me in 2004 for raksha bandhan, then in 2005 he called me for my birthday, then he called for new year’s..after that, he called me for the occassion of diwali, and started complaining i stopped writing and calling, then suggested i call and write once in a while to catch up..this year, i talked to him in february, three times in july and august on the phone.. i met him during his trip to the usa in july, and i write to him once in a while..when i called him in february, he couldnt take my call and he called me back after 3 days..when i called him for raksha bandhan, the minutes on my phone card ran out, and he called me back within 2 minutes..are we close..

although i never had the chance to attend a family wedding in india, i attended my dad’s brother’s daughter’s wedding in canada and that made me look at things from a different perspective. i met everyone after a very long time and they all ignored me and no one would talk to me. all of my cousins in india (mom’s side) are all older than me. they’re all married and have kids of their own, i had a close cousin from india visit me in june for five days. when he came, the very first thing he asked me was what i’m doing that i am busy all the time. when i told him everything, he looked at me and was able to tell i was making excuses. it made me realize that i was hurting his feelings. when i asked him for help on how to check the air pressure in my tires, he helped me. as a way of making it up to him, i sent him a picture from his visit and he replied "we miss the fun and action we had there." i wrote to him for india’s independence day and he replied me within two minutes. then i called him for raksha bandhan. can i make it up to him by writing to him for diwali then write to him once a month after that? send me ur honest opinions

when my aunt and uncle were visiting us from india, my aunt told my mom to call her brother for raksha bandhan. she told her brother that she will not remember him because he didnt come visit her in america. is that rude? last year, my cousin was in the usa but he didnt come visit me. i went there and i only got to spend three days with him. after he went back to india, i only wrote to him when he asked me to. i sort of missed him alot. when i called him for raksha bandhan last year, my minutes on my phone card ran out and he called me back within two seconds. this year, he came to america again with his wife and 2 sons and they came to visit me for five days. after they left, i realized that they wanted to spend five days with me so i remember them. they flew from india to new yorl, then from new york to california, then from california back to india. they took a 7 am flight from new york and arrived in california around 10 am pst. they went back to india on june 23rd. they flew directly from california and took the last flight in the evening. his kids started their school on july 1st. after they left, i sent him a picture from his vacation and got a reply "we miss the fun and action we had there." i wrote to him for india’s independence day and i got a reply in two minutes "great to hear from you." when i called for raksha bandhan, my cousin answered the phone. when i told him who was calling, he said "HI". I plan to write for Diwali. This morning my mom told me to call her sister because she called us yesterday. my mom doesnt let me call her brother. i got complaints from my cousin that i stopped writing and calling. if i start writing, what are the chances of me getting a complaint i stopped calling? i realize my cousin and his family came from the other side of the world to visit me. now, i’m kind of missing them and remembering them. both my cousin and his wife involved me in everything and made sure i wasnt left out. can i get some honest opinions? please be truthful
my cousin deserves to be remembered for travelling a long distance, going through a lot of trouble to come visit me, taking a lot of time off from his job, and flying back to india from California.

when i attended my dad’s brother’s daughter’s wedding in november 2006 in toronto, canada, i had a terrible time. none of my cousins talked to me or involved me in anything. they just ignored me. that taught me how to treat my cousins in india very negatively. this past summer, i had family from india come visit me in america and i’m starting to remember them. my cousin came to visit me for five days with his wife and 2 sons. when they were visiting, we went to disneyland. for group pictures, my cousin called me over to him. the next day, we were home and his kids were doing their homework and his wife was helping them. i was in my room doing some stuff on the computer. a few minutes later, my cousin came into my room and we chatted for a while. moments later, one of his sons was misbehaving. when i asked him if he should go see what the problem was, he said "he’ll get in trouble." is that a sign that spending time chatting with me was more important than checking on his child? the next day, my mom sent me out for shopping and my mom told my cousin to come with me. later that evening, we were on our way home and my cousin asked if i wanted to go for a walk. when we went to the beach, my cousin called me over and let me lean on him. after they left, i realized i’m better off writing to my cousin who came to visit me in america from india, and just let the others go to "". i wrote to my cousin for diwali and he replied "good to hear from you and thanks for remembering us for this auspicious occassion. i guess this cousin really cares about me. i felt bad because he was sleeping half of the time. when i asked his wife, she told me during the time when he works, he doesnt get enough sleep. he is just catching up on his sleep. is there a way of knowing if someone really cares about you? he flew from india to new york then from new york to california. i guess it was really important to him that he spent time with me. he took a 7 am flight from new york and landed in california around 10 am pst. then for going back to india, he took the very last flight in the evening.

whenmy cousin heard my sister was coming, i didnt inform him i wasnt coming. he called me up on the day he met her. i told him i got busy and he replied "omg! everyone is busy. i feel bad because when my sister came back from india, my cousin bought me a jewelry box, bangles, a blanket, and a shawl then this year he came to visit me for five days with his wife and 2 sons. the day after i finished my college, he called me from new york to say hi and wanted to catch up. what really surprised me though was when he came to visit, the very first thing he asked me was what i’m doing that i’m busy all the time. when i told him everything, he looked at me and was able to tell i was making excuses. a week after they went back to india, i sent him a picture from their visit on his personal email. four days later, he replied "we miss the fun and action we had there." i wrote to him on his office email for india’s independence day and he replied me within two minutes and replied "great to hear from you." then i called him two days later for another religious holiday and he said "hi p." now i am starting to remember them. is it me or am i hurting my cousin’s feelings when i keep saying i’m busy when i’m not. do u think he is happy i remembered him for two occassions? i wrote to him on his personal email in rgds to the new delhi bombs but didnt hear back. i’m wondering if he is pretending to be busy or is he really busy? i want to write to him for diwali but i’m not sure if he will like it or not. when he came to visit, he came me his personal email so i can send him pictures. send me ur honest feedback

Ok, so i am gonna celebrate diwali this year with my family, but i am Christan so i can’t go to a temple, or anything like that. I know it sounds weird, i just love the indian culture, and i want to live there ( no matter how poor the place i want to live is) when i am married. What are the symbols of diwali? how many diya’s should i light? what are the best diya’s and where could i find them? I do not live anywhere near little india, though. I speak hindi, and love bollywood, my best friend is lucky enough to live in india, and be hindu. Are there any special decorations? Any thing not to do? I know that the tradition is to wear new clothes, but I do not own a one piece sari, should i wear my two piece? Or should i make a one piece? What is the main reason to celebrate diwali for you? What do you do? What gifts should i give, and to who? SHould i make cards? My whole family is christian, (methodist, catholic) But i really want to celebrate diwali. To me it means a new start, and when ever i hear about it, i smile. I have been studying it since first grade, when i met my best friend, sanjana. It is October 23 this year, right? Should i have a party? American girl who wants to be indian. Why shouldn’t I? I love america, my cousin is in iraq right now, don’t get me wrong, but I just think that their culture is beautiful, and I want to celebrate it. I do not mean to offend anyone. And any ignorant people who say i should not do this because i am christian, and if you call me or anyone from india a terrorist, i will delete your guys’s questions. No offence, but they offend ME. Please keep it clean, kids like me go on this site, to.
In answer to your question, I learned hindi not from the bollywood films and songs, but from my best friend. She is the one that got me interested in different cultures in first grade, since she was so different. I went to a class, and am going to the class still but i only know a few words, since i just started a few months ago. Thanks again from all of you for the fabulous answers!
I don’t think i can choose between the first two answers! Sorry to the others, but they were the most detailed, and gave all the information you gave. I have a suspision that one of you read and just listed facts that they had. Thank you!

in 2005, my cousin joined a new company. after i stopped writing him for a year and stopped calling him for nine months, he called me and started complaining. he told me i should write and call once in a while to catch up. when i sent him my email address, he replied "this is my office email and we can catch up once in a while." a few months later, i wrote to him when i tried calling him. last year, he came to america, but he didnt come visit me. i went there. he told me he is not allowed access to photos. i only wrote to him when he asked me to. this year, i wrote to him for holi. he came to visit me with his wife and 2 sons for a week. he told me i can write to him once twice a month letting him know what i’m doing. i wrote to him for india’s in dependence day, and he replied in two minutes and said "great to hear from you." then i called him for raksha bandhan. when i told him who was calling, then he said "Hi." when i wished him a happy raksha bandhan, he said "thanks a lot, you too." i wrote to him on his office email for diwali and he replied "Hi, good to hear from you and thanks for remembering us on this auspicious occasion. sending ,greetings, best wishes and hope you too have lots of sweets and fun…..regards to buiji. cheeers

how do i know if my cousin means it and wants me to write to him, or is he just saying it to be nice?

during his visit, he gave up a day to check on his kids while they were during their homework so he could spend some time with me. my mom sent me out for some shopping, and my cousin came with me. can someone give me their honest feedback on this?

i had family come visit me from india.. i wrote to my cousin for the occassion of diwali.. and he replied "good to hear from you and thanks for remembering us on this auspicious occasion. sending ,greetings, best wishes and hope you too have lots of sweets and fun…..regards to buiji. cheeers.

since he wrote cheeers, is that a sign that he is happy? he also called me..

i want to stop writing but i would feel bad because they came down to visit coz they want me to remember them..they visited for a week and they went throuhg so much trouble..

pls tell me what i can do and how i can stop feeling bad..

here is a question: since diwali is next tuesday, i wrote to four of my cousins in india. so far, three of them replied. one of them said "Thanks. WISH YOU A VERY HAPPY DIWALI." another one said "thank a lot for the good wishes. hope you have a joyous and prosperity diwali. enjoy yourself and burst a lot of crackers." the other one said "good to hear from you and thanks for remembering us on this auspicious occassion. sending greetings, best wishes, and hope you too have lots of sweets and fun. rgds to bui. cheeers. is there a way of know if a cousin likes me more than others. the way i see it, only one of them really has a connection with me.

also, could u give me ur opinion on this as well. when my cousin came to visit, his wife was helping the kids with their homework. my cousin and i were up in my room chatting and catching up. one of the kids was misbehaving. when i asked him if he should go see what the problem was, my cousin’s reply was "he’ll get in trouble. I’m surprised. does that mean spending time and chatting with me was more important to him than checking on his kids? please give me ur opinion

here is an answer: Writing your cousins in India is forging relationships with them. This is a great way to know them and keep in touch and
Yes at the time it was more important to him. He probably disciplines his children all of the time, but he doesn’t get to spend time with you
what does forging relationships mean?

back in 2007, i did not inform my cousin i was or wasnt coming to india with my sister..the day my sister met my cousin in india, he called me and said," we thought we’d see you too." i told him i got busy and his reply was, "omg! everyone is busy."

a few weeks ago, i wrote to my cousin for diwali saying, "greetings and warm wishes and my cousin replied, "greetings and best wishes and he asked me if i was coming to india for one of my cousin’s weddings..i never replied him i am not coming..is it possible that he will assume i am coming.if i dont inform him i am not coming, will he call me and say, "we thought we’d see you at the wedding."

the reason why i cant go is because thingd are rough in the usa and my mom and i already went to europe..my cousin will get mad because he had to go through a lot of trouble to take time off to visit me in america with his wife and children when his company citifinancial was going through a rough time..

can someone tell me their opinion..will my cousin call me if i dont inform him i am not coming for the wedding

when i wrote to my cousin in india for diwali, i wroe greetings and warm wishes to all of you for a very happy diwali and new year and my cousin replied, "greetings and best wishes to you and everyone..
what does my cousin mean..is he happy i remembered him on the occassion..was he just being nice

my mom’s older brother arranged a girl for my mom’s younger brother’s son to get married on december 9th.. the family didnt call me..but when my mom’s older brother came to visit me, he informed me that his younger brother’s son is getting married..my cousin asked me if i was going to the wedding and said that it would be a good opportunity to meet a lot of relatives..but i never replied if i was going or not..if my mom’s sister-in-law never called us, does that mean i am not invited or does it mean that since my mom’s older brother was in charge of arranging the wedding, my mom’s older brother is in charge of inviting people to the wedding..i saw my cousin in 2007 and 2008..now that there is a wedding, he wants to see me again 2009..how do i know if he is serious or just being nice..i know he will be like i need a break from you..

the us recession is driving me out of this world..i am going to heald college..as of now, th public school system is bad and now they’re thinking of cutting courses and increasing costs of private schools..my mom works for a small company with only 16 employees but 12 were laid off and now only 4..as things are gettng worse, my mom will be out of job..can someone help me..i need some honest opinions..what does everyone think..i’m worried to death..

for diwali, i wrote: greetings and warm wishes to all of you for a very happy diwali and new year and my cousin replied, "greetings and best wish to u and everyone"..does that mean my cousin was happy i remembered them for the occassion..

my uncle fixed up a girl for one of my cousins in india..his marriage is on december 9th..when do people in india send out invitations and call people? will there be a way of knowing if i will get invited..the only invitation i received was by word of mouth..meaning my uncle informed us when he came to visit us in june..what is the probabilty i will not get invited and what is the probabilty i will get invited.

if someone can provide me with reasonmable answers, that would be great.. thanks